UPDATE : I wanted to reiterate before you read the full article, this goes beyond comparing this image to a breastfeeding mom. With the way society thrives on sex and the image of being sexual, so many young girls grow up with 1.) unrealistic expectations of how they should look and 2.) that being sexy is put on a pedestal; as a way everyone should be. This is not the case. You can be sexy and beautiful without plastering yourselves (or lack thereof) all over the cover of a magazine or for real life women; in public at the mall or out to eat.
Human trafficking is happening everywhere and while I’m not necessarily putting a label on one image here, I’m saying; it’s real. Young girls grow up seeing images like this one and think that’s real life and if us, as parent’s don’t show them this is not reality and this is not okay; they could get sucked in to what society thinks they should be. Where we live, in Charlotte, NC; sex trafficking is a real thing. If my daughter grows up to think this is normal, she could end up being a victim. North Carolina is one of the top states in the US where sex trafficking is most prominent. (Side note : not saying if you don’t idolize these images or try to be like them you won’t be a victim either. Unfortunately, it can happen to anyone at any time, but if women think this is okay, they might start to think other things are too.)
My argument here is; what kind of a mother would I be if I flaunted this image in my daughter’s eyes? It’s not okay. It’s not okay society has put such a glorifying image on sex for young children to see and grow up idolizing. Yes, they’ll see it anywhere, but as you read further, you will hear more about why I have such an issue with this specifically.
When a friend posted this on Facebook tonight, it caused a lot of debate.
Now, you can’t see all of the comment on this, but you might be able to get the idea that some (aka : those who are not parents) think this is okay and us parent’s who have issue with it are just sadly mistaken, because our kids are going to grow up and be crazy anyway.
While the parent’s are all arguing that this is not okay for our innocent babies to see. I have to agree. While my disagreement may be for other reasons.
Flashback to the 80s. This is what a Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover looked like.
And this is what the cover looks like today, in 2014.
In a world where mom’s who are breastfeeding their baby’s are asked to leave a restaurant, cover up in a store, or told they can’t fly on a plane if they have an exposed breast while feeding their infant; why is this okay!?
I have been lucky enough to breastfeed two kids and never been refused a service, but the reality is; it’s true. Follow experts like TheBabyGuyNYC; he’ll tell you. A mom was recently told she would not be allowed to breastfeed her infant uncovered on a plane… even if he won’t eat with his face covered or take a bottle on a flight that is several hours long.
But, it’s okay for my two year old to cash out in a CVS and see the cover above? Really?
The argument in my friend’s status was that, our daughter’s are going out (& I quote;) “tweaking like Miley Cyrus” anyway and if we deprive them in their youth, they’re going to go crazy when they get older and let out of the house.
Our world is full of sexuality and crazy things these days. Things I hope my children never see, but unfortunately, they probably will.
But, what kind of a mother would I be if I flaunted this sexual image in my daughter’s face? This image promotes so many things the devil wants us to hear.
- Being insecure about our weight and our looks
- The fake reality of what we should look like
- Children wanting to grow up much faster than they should
While I realize there are so many other things our kids can be exposed to (and certainly are even when we try so hard to protect them from it,) we shouldn’t be worried about cashing out at a CVS and our kids innocent eyes being exposed to so much sexuality.
If society thinks it’s okay to ask a mother to leave a restaurant or tell her she can’t fly on a plane if she’s exposing a breast while feeding her newborn, how is this okay!?
How is three women who look too skinny to be healthy with no top looking at the camera in a sexual manner okay compared to a mother feeding her infant? It’s not. That’s the point.
We live in a sexual world. The truth is, times have changed. It wasn’t always this way and I’m sure it’s going to continue to get worse where us parent’s need to be even more afraid of what is out there, but it’s about how we raise our daughter’s and our son’s to be respectful of themselves, their bodies, and other people that is going to count.
I’m not saying every child who is raised right by their parents is going to grow up and not get into trouble or give in to temptation, or vice versa for kids who may not have been taught right from wrong, but what kind of a parent would I be if I waved this magazine cover in my daughter’s face and flaunted it like it was a healthy body image?
We should be encouraging our children to be healthy and happy and respectful. There is nothing about the cover of this magazine that says any of those things.
Now, I’m not saying it’s wrong for this to be on the shelves. Sadly, we live in a time and a world where these types of images are everywhere. However, I am saying.. is it really okay for this to be flashed at the checkout line for innocent eyes?
My daughter deserves better than this. My son deserves better than this. I will nurture them, love them, take care of them, and teach them right from wrong. I will not wave these images in their faces and let them see an image that is so far from reality; it’s disgusting.
Maybe I look at things like this differently now that I’m a parent, but we’re supposed to. We are supposed to have our children’s best interests at heart. We’re supposed to change and grow. We make mistakes, I have and I know I will again; but I will always have my kids and what is best for them in all of my actions. And if that means speaking out about something that is important to me; so be it.
This isn’t about three women in a skimpy bikini. They’re going to see that everywhere, no matter what. This is about the sad twisted views our society has between what’s right and what is wrong and the fact that just, because our kids are going to grow up and be exposed to things makes a two year old being exposed to this image now okay. It doesn’t.
Now.. sound off. Tell me what you think? How is the cover of this magazine any more respectful than a mom feeding her baby while shopping or our to lunch?