When our sweet girl started losing weight around four months old after a glowing first few months of weight gain and breastfeeding bliss; this mommy went through a messy season of guilt. When our pediatrician told me I had to supplement to help her weight loss issues, I obliged.. reluctantly, but I went with it. After several weeks of exclusive pumping while nursing before naps and bedtime and formula, I knew I couldn’t keep up. We saw a huge change in not only her weight, but her behavior and sleeping too, so I knew after everything I had tried to increase my milk supply, it wasn’t working. After having a long chat with our amazing pediatrician, I knew it was time to give up what I wanted, to give her what she needed.
Soon, we went from this….
- I stopped worrying what other people would think. It’s so easy for other people to judge you and your journey, and even though it’s so hard.. don’t let them. This is YOUR life. What is most important is what works for YOU and YOUR BABY, not what other people try telling you is best.. no matter how innocent their intentions may be.
- I stopped posting on Facebook. Every time I posted something on Facebook. there was always someone telling me I wasn’t doing enough. “You know, you can get a second opinion.” Or “Doctor’s don’t know everything, don’t do what they say, I would just keep doing this…” or “You can pump more you know?” Those were all things I heard over and over and over. So eventually, I just stopped posting and seeking the advice for others and it helped me to come to terms with my decision.
- Go with your gut. My gut was telling me from the get-go, my issue was a supply thing, but I tried convincing myself of every other possible thing that came up in a Google search and ignored my gut instinct. My gut told me over and over her extreme fussiness came from being hungry, but I let people’s opinions influence me to tell myself that wasn’t it. Always go with your mommy gut. Never let that intuition steer your wrong. And in the end, go with what is going to make you and your baby happy and your days easier. Once I stopped breastfeeding; while sad to end that part of our journey, our days got so much more enjoyable and went so much smoother.
And contrary to what many people think… just, because you stop breastfeeding, doesn’t make you any less of a mom.
Once we paired formula with the Gerber Soothe Colic Drops, I really began seeing a huge improvement. Seeing the change in her attitude while she was awake and seeing her sleep more, I knew right then my decision was the right one for my girl and I let go of all of that guilt I had been feeling. While I desperately wanted to hang onto the breastfeeding relationship, once I saw the change in her after drinking formula fun time for a few days, I had to let go of what I wanted and that guilt I was feeling to give her what she needed. That has been our absolute formula for happiness and I don’t regret making that decision one bit!